Put bluntly, the danger and microaggressions that non-cis, non-hetero, non-white, non-males face in the United States is the same as being in a European ground war. 

“For the LGBTQ community and other minorities, war is fought every day”, LGBTQNation

I guess maybe because I post-op, transsexual man, I guess maybe the author of this article doesn’t think someone like me suffers from our kyriarchy as well.

I get that we all suffer from an ever devolving queerphobic, sexist, racist culture in many parts of the US. States banning trans-affirming care because they haven’t read the WPATH-SOC. Religious groups increasing their attempts to be exempt from anti-discrimination laws so they can discriminate against same-sex couples (along with other religious minorities). Increases in bans on books of lgbt representation in sex education and school libraries. Push back against bans on conversion therapy, ”gay panic” defenses, having insurance cover gender-affirming care. Greg Abbott, the current governor of Texas at the time I write this post, trying to get child services to arrest parents who are helping their transsexual children (trans teenagers who want HRT, not just special snowflake “transtrenders”), despite the fact he often wants to defend ”parents’ rights”.

Trans women being killed because they’re “traps”, or getting arrested because they’re “standing while trans” (cops arresting them for supposedly being sex workers when really they may just be loitering somewhere). Insurances still finding loopholes or reasons to deny trans people sex change therapies and surgeries. States and other jurisdictions still denying transsexuals the right to update their name and sex markers, even if they underwent a sex change.

States telling surgeons to SRS (among other surgeries, like removing tumors) on hold to help with the COVID pandemic because they called such surgeries “elective”.

There are issues big and small that come with being transsexual or attracted to the same sex, or any other minority in the US, but I think comparing all this to actual war trivializes what real war actually entails.

Thank god, I have never been a soldier called to battle. (Nor will I ever have to.) Thank god I live on soil that hasn’t seen war since the American Civil War. My grandparents have fought in and survived WW2; my father drafted during Vietnam but was a mechanic stationed at bases but never had to face actual battle.

The closest I have ever come to war was the footage I have seen, the stories I have heard from refugees and immigrants who re-settled stateside to flee war, because they have families and all they want are quiet lives to work and raise their families. Being a minority, we can always find our safe spaces to recuperate from the harrassments, bullshit, and discrimination we have to deal with on a daily basis—but those who are living through actual war don’t have any such reclusion. Not knowing if and when the abode they’re in could be the next target of attack. If the coyote who claims to be taking you to safety could abandon you at any moment. If and when you will find your next meal. If separated from your loved ones if you will ever hear or see them again. And probably a dozen, if not a thousand, other scenarios I can’t think of, because being the member of a minority in an otherwise “safe” country is nothing like being the victim of an actual war.

Yes, hate crimes exist, and some end up deadly for members of our community. I am not denying that. I could always become the victim of corrective rape. Someone could could come and destroy my car, or invade my residence and destroy it. Any LGBT-centric place I attend could be subject to domestic terrorism. At any point I come out someone could potentially assault me, and for all I know the doctor at the ER treating me sees my vagina and decides he won’t treat me.

Our lives as minorities are a contant fight and struggle, but I wouldn’t compare it to a battle or war.

Or maybe living in these mountains have just sheltered me too well to realize it.

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